Coffee House Girl

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  Please read and sign ... Grace had a scarey fall ...

  by wannabefree in

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  big hug for you!

  i am glad you are okay.

  you are a strong woman.. so sorry grace.

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  Glad you are ok Grace !!! Still get to see your smiling avatar :)

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  Why has there never been a manual for wives of elders if the FDS cares so much for families

  by life is to short in

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  there could be such chapters as.

  1 how to raise children in the "truth" without a husband.. 2 how to not feel hurt when your husband ignores you during the meetings and talks to everyone else.. 3 how to handle your husband rushing with anther elder off to be with some poor depressed sister or family night after night when you are depressed yourself.. 4 what to do with yourself when you husband has talks out and he is busy gabbing with the other elders and you are standing alone watching the sisters stare but never coming over to talk to you as you stand there stupidly.. 5 how to handle the rude phone calls of members of the hall demanding your husband come over right now!.

  6 how to explain to your children why their father is helping other families and has no time to spend with them.. 7 how to explain to your children that a quick build is more important than they are.. 8 how to explain to neighbors and coworkers why your husband is always busy with the congregation and can never help you around the house.. my husband and i were talking the other day and he brought up again that the wives of elders should consider the cost of marring an elder.. i never knew before we were married what it was truly like.

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  Lol (sarcasticly)

  Hugs to LITS , you have been through a lot and I am sorry- there are so many men and women who are "trapped" in loveless JW marriages because they really have nothing in common, or the mate has become a changed person & that leaves the other person feeling depressed and suffocated because there is no "out" unless you become the "bad" guy by cheating or something like that.

  I hope someday for your sake that your life changes and you can live in peace.

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  Jehovah Unmasked

  by Soldier77 in

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  jehovah unmasked by nathaniel j. merritt.

  has anyone read this and what are your thoughts, opinions?

  i have just downloaded it tonight and i'm already on chap.

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  Thanks for the suggestion- will look at it! Marked.

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  I'm having a baby!

  by AwSnap in

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  im just about at 14 weeks.

  whooohooooo!

  i thought i had the answers to all, until i got that "positive" on the pregnancy test.

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  Congrats on a beautiful family :) so happy for you! Yup...I second, and third that waiting is a good idea- as little stress as possible!!!!

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  New Facebook Rule for JWs?

  by wifeofjw in

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  just about everyone in the hall my husband attends is deleting their facebook account.

  he just cam back from a ms meeting.

  what's the deal?.

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  I am a bit of a FB creeper...I do like to spy on other JW's FB pages (I do not invite any to become friends, I do not want the headache as posted above). I have noticed that some of the once regular JW FBers are not posting things on their wall real regular lately, perhaps they did get a guilt trip from the WTS..but it wont last long.

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  My year in songs

  by ele_lux in

  1. jw
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  these are the songs that describe my 2010 (in that order):.

  1) where is the love - black eyes peas .

  "madness is what you demonstrate....can you practice what you preach and would you turn the other cheek?

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  OMG- REM "losing my religion", about two months before I left for good- that song kept comming on the radio, I would all of a sudden hear it at work, in my car, I had my ipod on shuffle & it kept "randomly" playing during my exercising....it was like michael stype was singing to me...kept egging my on to do something to change my misery.

  good playlist ele-lux :)

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  Full transcripts of judicial case.

  by Hobo Ken in

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  in january 2009 i was disfellowshipped from jw's.

  i documented the whole process and recorded it which you can find here:- death or obedience.

  many people asked for english transcripts of these recordings and i'm pleased to say i now have full transcripts kindly supplied anonymously for those who wish to read them.. these will be of great help to those who have trouble hearing or cannot understand the scottish accents on the recordings.. they are available here:- the trial of a jehovah's witness the new site has it's own audio link for each transcript so you can listen along as you read.. the person who has supplied me is interested in the moral and ethical issues this case has thrown up.

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  marked for later

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  I was BANE...I have an apology to most of you.

  by Botzwana in

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  i was bane and i think i got banned because everytime i tried to log in i couldn't.

  i was defending the society as best as i could.

  something has happened in the last few months.

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  Welcome back Bane,

  I was in your shoes 2 years ago, going through the same emotions...feeling trapped, scared, depressed- I was desperate to keep my JW family, the JW life was all I knew, but I was so miserable, it was serious for me...I began to pray to Jehovah everyday to die, and then everymorning came with a sinking feeling...knowing I was still here alive and so miserable- but Jeh's people are supposed to be so happy right? I would ask myself why am I so hollow and unhappy when I have the "truth"? Everything began to crumble...I made a desperate plan to escape

  I did this a year ago now, it has been quite a journey, you ask what we on the "outside" do now that we don't have meetings and theocratic activities and the "truth"? Well I enjoy my life and do not feel guilty....I go to college, I work, I now have a wonderful supportive fiance who loves me unconditionally. I still search for truth, and my spirituality is still important to me...but I am liberated by knowing that I have a full lifetime ahead of me to rediscover God & I know God loves me.

  Most of my family shuns me & I deal with that reality by recognizing that they are trapped just as I was- I move on with my life & try to remember when it hurts that they are doing this because they think that they are acting out of love- they are misguided & when I was deep "in" the WTBS, I did the same thing under their misdirection.

  Best of luck to you

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  An interesting talk with my father

  by Soldier77 in

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  a little background before my recap of my conversation.

  my father left my mom and i when i was young, like before i was 5. so i didn't know him other than a couple images i had of him in my head.

  i don't have any bad feelings towards him, even though he cheated on my mom and took 20 years to pay back child-support.

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  I was impressed also with how you are able to be there for your dad, be able to verbally express your love and conviction to "be there for him" no matter what happened in the past, and future-

  as a "born-in" ex-JW I still struggle with the "cutting people off" mentality, especially if the loved one, as you put it "made some wrong decisions in the past". It can be hard to let the past go and see someone as a good person, even if they made life choices that we would not have made.

  You are very zen about it & I want to be like that too- thanks for sharing

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  Have YOU Sold Any Of Your Gold Jewelry And If So, How Did You Do It?

  by minimus in

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  did you sell it to these guys on tv commercials and send it in the mail?.

  did you sell it locally?.

  were you satisfied with what you got?

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  I have done both, on line send in & with local merchants: my best price was gotten with the local merchants where I walked into the store, they weighed and tested the pieces and cut me a check- I used to be a registered jeweler 7 years ago, the gold market has changed a lot since I was in the game & the online guys really do skin you- with them I ended up just asking them to send it back to me after I received the quote, then taking the gold to the local jeweler

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